When you hear a story of cheating between spouses, what are the reasons why a marriage ended in divorce? The breakup could be the product of the relationship being toxic and making coexistence impossible between a man and a woman, who in the past swore external love before God, but nothing lasts forever, and even more so when we talk about marital relationships, where both the woman and the man grow apart over time.

When you listen to the dramatic story about cheating between couples, it creates the interest of many people who may be going through the same situation right now or in the future, and through this story about unfaithful women, you could understand this type of behavior but also know the signs of this type of deception between a couple.

Something that you have to understand: When you reach a certain age, a woman being attracted to young boys as a way of feeling pretty and attractive is nothing new, nor is it anything new when a mature man starts dating young girls who can be daughters.

One consequence of divorce is the manipulation and use of children to blackmail the man for the woman, and even more so when that woman wants more money, or wants to return to her ex-husband. Perhaps that is why, as a form of blackmail, she does not let her father see the children, even though it was the agreement that was made when the divorce was finalized.

What was the reason for the breakdown of this marital relationship? When you hear the story, you will know the reasons.

For some reason, while you are married, there are certain sacrifices that you make to maintain the relationship, but there comes a time when spiritual, social, personal and intimate needs call your attention, and you begin to satisfy the erotic sexual fantasies that were stored at that moment.

A bank of unsatisfied desires that become the center of attention when you reach a certain age and the monotony that every marriage goes through are the reasons for the emergence of these sexual fantasies, in which satisfying them is something that is a priority.

Right now, cheating between spouses is nothing new, and even more so when the woman or man is older. Many times, the reasons for this type of cheating between couples have to do with infidelity when a woman of a certain age is being unfaithful to a very young boy who is twice her age.

I have always believed that in a relationship between a mature woman and a very young man, the word masters does not exist, which is replaced by the word passion,” and intimate desires are considered prohibited where both obtain some type of emotional or economic benefit that fills their immediate expectations.

If you are a mature woman looking to satisfy erotic desires and looking for men much younger than you, visiting the gym to exercise is a good place where you can observe the semi-naked bodies of those who visit that place.

If you are a woman of a certain age, it will attract your attention, but also the physical temptation, where having intimate relationships with attractive men, is something that can be expected, in the case of women, chewing on their erotic fantasies and feeling that they still It is considered an attractive woman and in the case of the young man, it could be obtaining gifts, money and free sex.

Type of woman, who, as a result of the natural changes that we all have when we reach a certain age, the way she reacts to those physical, mental and hormonal changes, begins to have intimate relationships with people younger than her, is a consequence of These changes that some women experience when they reach a certain age.

Why in this story of deception, the center of the trauma is a mature woman who falls in love with many younger than them? From my point of view it is the type of dramatic short story that happens all the time, the problem is that these types of stories are never told by the participants.

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I divorced my wife for cheating on me, now I can’t see the children, if I don’t forgive her.

If you are always hearing the expression “in bad times, you know who your friends really are”. Following that same idea, if you want to really know a woman, how she handles herself in a crisis,” tells you the type of woman with whom you really have a marital relationship.

” My wife cheated on me with young men at the gym, which is why I ended up divorcing her. After I divorced her, I thought that everything was over between her and me as a couple, and we would only focus on raising the children, but how wrong I was about who my wife was! Really was. Now she is blackmailing me by not letting me see the children if I don’t forgive her for cheating on her and go back to her.

My name is Charles, and my ex-wife’s name is Karen. We had been married for about 14 years prior to the divorce, which happened 6 months ago after I found out that Karen, the mother of my eyes, was cheating on me, mostly with young men she met at the gym.

Between my wife and I, we have three beautiful children, two girls and a little boy. Elizabeth, who is 11 years old; Heather, the youngest, who is 8 years old; and Kyle, who is 3 years old. The marriage between Karen and I had the ups and downs of every marriage, but I never thought that my ex-wife would cheat on me with another man.

How did this story really begin? I could say that it all started when, trying to be a good husband, I paid for the cost of a plastic surgery on my breasts and also hired a personal trainer in the gym to give my wife a way to improve her self-esteem, but what I never thought was that my wife would start cheating on me with young men in the gym.

As I discovered my wife’s infidelities, despite all the pleas, and begged my ex-wife not to divorce her, months later the court granted me divorce, also opting for joint custody of the children. I had the right to have the children on weekends, during vacations and pay for their medical insurance.

But, six months after the divorce came out, my ex-wife is blackmailing me by not letting me see the children, as agreed by the family court. She is telling me now that if I don’t go back to her and forgive her for all her cheating, My ex-wife will move to another state and never see the children again. But at the beginning of the divorce, not everything was like that, because my ex-wife thought that being good to me and treating the children well, I would reconsider my decision to divorce her.

She took a therapy class to be a good mother, as agreed in court, she also stopped visiting the gym as a way to change her image before my family, who blame her for being so selfish as a mother and wife and thinking only of herself.

Many people think that the toxicity of a relationship ends when the divorce is finalized, but when you have children as a result of a toxic marriage, that type of abnormal marital relationship never ends, as long as there is an emotional connection between the parents and the children, and more so when one of the parents uses the children as a tool of emotional manipulation and economic blackmail, as is the case with the mother of my children, who is telling you this story right now.

How is my ex-wife using children as a tool of emotional blackmail to force me to forgive her cheating? If you are a divorced man with children who is going through the same situation, this story could be for you. What has been my life after my divorce from my wife? Aside from sometimes feeling anxious about the kids, depressed about the way my marriage ended, and angry about my ex-wife cheating.

Something that every divorced man faces as a result of a breakup or divorce is the grieving process for a breakup of this type that lasts approximately between six months and two years, And the time of overcoming will depend on different factors (how was the breakup, who made the decision).

Another thing to consider is that if you did the impossible to be with her and save your marriage, it is possible that you will not feel much pain, and in some cases, you will feel good about yourself because you know that you gave everything without keeping anything, to save your marriage, but when your marriage breaks due to cheating on your wife, believe me, the pain lasts for a long time, and in some cases you need psychological help to overcome the trauma caused by infidelity.

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room that many men don’t want when their marriage breaks down due to a woman’s cheating: when he’s hurt due to cheating, lying and emotional manipulation, you can’t help but feel pain, and often it is. A feeling of impotence produces resentment against your wife.

As men, you feel vulnerable, and you think that you should protect yourself from everyone since you consider that all women act the same. You become more introverted, and you begin to withdraw from your loved ones. In short, you blame yourself for what happened. As a cheating man, all you want to do is forget the pain and move on, never looking back.

In the case of my separation from my wife after a marriage of fourteen years and three children, believe me, it was and continues to be a process of emotional adaptation as a father, as a man, and also as a husband. Many times I miss the smiles of the children, the whining, and the fights between them, and the many times when I hear the voices of other children, I discover how much I miss their presence because, despite everything, I love being the parents of my children. But I am sure that just as I miss them, they also miss me.

Something that I miss from my ex-wife and as a man, I appreciate a lot from her, was that attitude of sweet understanding, kindness and acceptance of who I really was without claiming me. My personal therapist told me that no matter what the reason for the separation was, the children were, in the end, the most affected by the bad decisions that the parents made.

Usually, many couples get back together when the cause of the separation has been as traumatic as the reason for the separation. A type of idea that does not exist in me right now, when I analyze my emotional situation, is that the well-being of the children could be one of the reasons, but not the main one.

One thing is that the separation is the product of a lack of communication, a poor economic situation, or a lack of maturity when you marry young, and another thing is that the divorce is the product of loss of trust, the lies of your partner, and more when that woman loves you cheating with another man.

I have always believed that the most important thing is the emotional well-being of children, who are not responsible for the bad decisions and mistakes of their parents. To believe that the traumatic or amicable separation between the parents does not affect the emotional stability of the children is to delude oneself into not understanding how the children perceive the world around them, where both parents are the center of attention.

My ex-wife, understanding this reality, often uses the children to force me to do things as a parent that are not part of my responsibility. One thing is my responsibility as a father, and another thing is my responsibility as a man, and my ex-wife makes no distinction between the two.

In this sense, as a parent, panic increases due to the emotional well-being of children, and even more so when you do have children, and they are of a young age, given that a separation can negatively affect a boy or a girl who always had their parents together. How does our divorce affect children? I believe that the youngest children are not able to understand what is happening, and even more so when the breakup is complicated as a result of deception. On the contrary, the older girl shows symptoms associated with stress, anxiety and fear of being abandoned. Sometimes she also shows on her face a conflict of loyalty between her mother and her father, in which she has to decide “If I love mommy, I don’t love daddy”, in which she prefers to stay quiet. Lately, her performance at school has decreased.

The little girl started wetting the bed more often again, sometimes screaming when fighting, sometimes being aggressive, refusing some foods, and lately she is having nightmares, fear of the dark, or being alone at all, have physical expressions of discomfort, such as vomiting, and abdominal pain in the youngest child has not seen significant change, although he shows attachment behavior towards me when the mother comes to pick him up.

Many times, women after a divorce, depending on the reasons for the divorce and their emotional intelligence, can react differently. In the case of my ex-wife: I think she should feel the same pain that I feel. In the first stage of grieving a divorce, sadness and anger are normal reactions. Do not have the slightest doubt, divorce and separations can trigger an emotional whirlwind in women, such as guilt.

She feels that she is worthless and that she does not deserve the love of men. These types of emotions can make her withdraw from other people and also isolate herself, which can lead, over time, to deep feelings of loneliness, which, in the case of my ex-wife, she wants to solve by begging me to go back to her. A friend of my ex-wife told me that my ex had a very difficult time when she just went to her house to cry, mourn, and feel worthless because she was alone and considered herself unattractive.

I have always believed that divorced women tend to go into a grieving process after the loss of a marital relationship, and more so when we are talking about a marriage of fourteen years, something that my ex-husband never thought of when she decided to cheat on me with young men.

After they all found out that she was a divorced woman, many of them treated her badly. As she really was, an old woman who dated men younger than them, trying to do, in the middle of her life, things she never did when she was young.

My ex-wife did not realize that she had been fooling herself into believing that those young men in the gym found her an attractive woman, when in reality they used her to have easy sex. Was it my wife’s mistake to get married so young? Only she knows that answer, but that doesn’t justify cheating on her husband.

In recent weeks, my ex-wife Karen has been taking Kyle, who is 3 years old, to the hospital due to medical problems, especially on weekends, which is an excuse for my ex-wife to prevent me from seeing the children at the end of the week.

Every weekend, when it is not a problem, it is another problem, which creates suspicion in me that she is using the children as a weapon against me because of the deep love I have for my children. The other week, my ex-wife informed me that she was thinking of moving to another state as a way to get a better job. It was something that surprised me because right now the children are finishing the school year.

Reasons why the children, according to what was agreed upon for custody, had to spend the summer with their father. A situation that is causing me certain anxiety, knowing my ex-wife.

Do not have the slightest doubt that divorce is not really the end of the toxic relationship with your ex-wife, the mother of your children, because apart from using children as a tool of emotional manipulation, to force the man to pay attention to The ex-wife, there is also the possibility that she is totally opposed to you trying to see other women.

Let alone establishing a serious relationship with another woman who would go on to be the stepmother of her children. As soon as your ex-wife notices that they have competition for the attention of the ex-husband, the recriminations begin, along with the unjustified sick jealousy and the accusations of not spending time with the children.

Do not have the slightest doubt about the accusations before the court of being a negligent father, who never visits his children, and let’s talk about asking for an increase in the amount of money in child support. According to my lawyer, these are the classic signs of a mother who uses children to manipulate the court and put her ex-husband between a rock and a hard place.

This situation is like her saying between words, “If you don’t want to be my husband again, neither will you be the husband of another woman, much less impose a stepmother on my children. That is why family therapists say that divorce does not end a toxic relationship between a man and a woman, what it does is aggravate the problems when one of them does not want to recognize that she has serious emotional problems.

As a result of this dispute between my ex-wife and me, due to my ex-wife’s lack of compliance with the custody of the children imposed by the family court on her, the judge appointed a family therapist to take the case. This family therapist suggested to my ex-wife, if she did not wish to lose full custody of the children, that she should go into therapy to understand the reasons behind the teenage behavior of a 38-year-old woman who is entering the pre-menopausal stage of her life.

A woman who is the mother of three children has been married for fourteen years, during which she began to seek the attention of men much younger than her, which does not disqualify her as a woman. Type of behavior that the therapist considered to be abnormal, not because of the age difference between my ex-wife and the lovers, but because of the way she acted. Only a woman with low self-esteem could behave that way, using her body to try to fill emotional and affective needs in the wrong places with the wrong people.

I am sure that many of you will wonder why I am telling this story, which can be fictional as well as real. For me, it is a way of saying that when a marriage ends, none of the main actors end up winning. Actually, the most affected would always be the children, who grow up in single-mother homes or, in the most optimistic cases, are raised by a father who sometimes loves him more than their own father.

Right now, my ex-wife and I are taking family therapy, not to recover a marriage that no longer exists, but to create the best environment for our children to grow up with the same support, love and attention as if we were together, not as a man and a woman. But fathers who look at their children as the center of attention.

Thank you very much for reading this kind of story about broken marriage and unfaithful women.